Say what you're into, say what you're not, and meet people who are glad you did.
Join the NYC waitlist18+ only. Ember is invite-only — the waitlist is how you get in.
Rate what you're into before you ever match. Every “no” becomes a limit, so nobody has to guess.
Roles, relationship structure and who you’re open to meeting lead your card, so people see straight away whether you fit.
When you match, Ember shows what you’re both into up front, so the first message is easy to write.
Every member is invited or approved, checked to be a real person, and accepts the same community agreement before they see anyone.
Read the community agreementMembers vouch for the people they bring in, and only for people they trust to follow the norms.
A one-time selfie check confirms you’re real. Faceless photos are fine, and the selfie isn’t stored.
No outing anyone. Sharing profiles or screenshots without consent gets you removed.
Every profile and every chat has block and report, and both work straight away.
Join solo, link your profile with a partner, or share one profile as a couple or group.
Ember is launching in New York only. Join the waitlist and we’ll email your invite when your spot opens.
Join the NYC waitlistKinky, queer and non-monogamous adults — singles, partners and groups — who want to be upfront about what they’re into.
Ember is invite-only. Join the waitlist and we’ll email you an invite code, or get vouched in by someone who’s already a member.
No. Plenty of members aren’t out. Verification confirms you’re real without putting your face on your profile.
Yes. Tell us your city on the waitlist form and we’ll let you know when Ember gets there.